Raising Godly children in a busy world filled with perversions is becoming hard if not almost impossible. Some parents are already getting confused on which intentional parenting style to adopt out of the various resources available.
It is a non negotiable fact that as Christians, God expects we raise godly seeds for Him(Malachi 2:15). We can’t afford to fail and the more reason for everyone to keeping striving and give it all it takes to present acceptable seeds to God on the last day.
The question is, how can parents raise children who are technology compliant, yet have a solid relationship with God?
In this interview, Mrs. Lafunky will be sharing practical steps on how to go about intentional parenting the Bible way.
She is a trained Children’s Social Worker for the government of United Kingdom
Her job entails overseeing child abuse cases, offering support to children and families that are experiencing domestic abuse, supporting children and families that are in need, offering support to families that are experiencing difficulties with their children’s development, among other things.
Our guest has been privileged to work at various nursery and primary schools in the UK.
Mrs. Lafunky is an adult Sunday school teacher and also oversees the Teenagers’ unit of her church.
She has an online Bible Study ministry called “God’s Refuge” as well as a Christian ministry called “Truly Making A Difference” where people seek counsel about Godly Christian courtships.
She has this to say:
I believe working as a team with my spouse makes parenting effective and manageable. Joint parenting as father and mother helps everyone within the household to connect together and above all it makes it fun.
When both parents work together, they can bounce on each other’s ideas thereby making parenting easier and not a burden for either of the parent.
Children also learn that parenting is both mummy and daddy’s role. You as a parent also feel happier and less stressed when you work together with your spouse.
What is your notion about Intentional Parenting?
Proverbs 22:6 is our guide.
For us, it means being deliberate in raising our children in line with the Word of God. It means training up our children in the way God would like them to be at every stage of their lives.
It means equipping them with skills and values that they can independently utilize at every stage in life.
What does it mean to train a child in the way he should go?
This means God has given us a mandate to teach our children.
The Scripture says “In the way he should go”, this means in the child’s unique personality, gifts, talents, and aspirations.
It also means in the way we would like the child to be when they are adults. It is however important that we subject the training of our children to the wisdom of God and the help of the Holy Spirit.
In what ways can parents be intentional?
- By spending time with your children. Both parents should try as much as possible to create time for their children.
- Spend time to pray with the children.
- Spend time to eat together
- Spend time to read together.
- Spend time to visit different places together.
- Learn from other Christian parents.
- Join Christian intentional parenting groups online.
- Read books/blogs/listen to messages about parenting.
Doing the above will give you various opportunities to build your children’s character, to teach them the way of the Lord, and to guide them in the part to take.
At what age should parents introduce the Bible to their children?
There’s a popular saying “catch them young”. Start early. I believe parents should start reading the Word of God to their children from the age of 3 months old. Are you wondering why 3-6 months old? Between the ages of 3-6 months, a baby’s social and emotional development means, your baby will be able to show excitement by waving arms and legs.
Your baby will be able to notice the difference between two people based on the way they look, sound, or feel. Your baby should also start noticing things around them. So from this age, start reading a picture Bible to your children, preferably a child’s Bible.
Start playing Christian songs to your children; you’d be surprised how quick they pick up things. As parents, it’s important that you have a daily Bible reading routine for yourself before you can make it a routine for your children. If not, you may struggle to be consistent with your children.
Ways to achieve it:
- Be creative in teaching the children the Bible. As they grow older, start asking them questions about what you have read to them.
- Read the Bible to your child in the morning before or after they have taken their bath and before they sleep.
- Get a child’s age appropriate Bible for easy understanding.
- Sing children’s church songs with them in the morning and at night. We have so many resources that are accessible online for free such as; search YouTube for Bible stories and Christian songs for kids and download Bible You Version.
- Each day, be intentional to incorporate both Godly and secular activities that will aid their development.
- Buy Christian coloring books that they can color.
- Take them to church when you are going to church. Expose them to things of God. Remember you are their first teacher.
- Ask them to lead prayers at home. Do you know that a 2 year old can pray? Also , ensure they pray on their food.
Above all, use the Word of God to correct your children’s behavior.
How can parents protect their children from the world while still in the world?
- Expose them to the Word of God. Study (not read) the Word of God day and night.
- Let the Word of God be used in your everyday life.
- Pray for your children every single day.
- Do not fall for society’s pressure of how they are raising children. Check everything with the Word of God.
- Be available for your children.
- Be very observant. Observe your children. Observe who they hang out with, be friend with their friends and their friend’s parents.
- Promote Godly activities
- Both parents should work to invest in a child with love, nurture, godly wisdom and discipline that is needed for our children to become fully committed to God.
Thank God I have been privileged to work with young people, youth, teenagers, and adults; I can see the benefits of laying a good foundation for children and the benefits of being consistent with raising children in a godly way right from being a toddler.
Who bears the blame for a wayward child?
I am aware that it is easier to blame the parent. However, it all depends on the context.
Parents have significant role in training their children according to the Word of God, however, the child also has a role to listen. Proverbs 1:8 says that “Hear, my son, your father’s instruction, and forsake not your mother’s teaching.”
I would like to encourage the reader with a child that has gone astray not give up. Don’t speak negative words regarding any negative behavior that they may be exhibiting.
Keep praying for them, keep teaching them. Maximize your support networks for help and also seek professional support as of when needed. Sometimes professional support or advice from a friend or an online group may be the solution in helping the wayward child.
This is a wrap on today’s interview session with our guest.
It’s been great learning at the feet of Jesus through the mouth of His vessel.
A big thank you to Mrs. Lafunky for sharing with us on Tabitha Writes, we appreciate the time you gave us out of your busy schedule. God bless you real good.
Did you grab a new understanding and knowledge of how to go about Godly parenting in this immorality filled world?
Till I come your way next month with another guest, dear parents, keep being positively intentional in your parenting. You will not labor in vain over your children in Jesus’ Name.