Getting it Right Before Saying Yes I Do
So many people jump into marriage without adequate preparation and this often leads to problems. Get it right from the start and have your dream marriage. Even though there will be challenges on the way, your prior preparations will help.
Who do we blame?
It is worrisome how people put a lot of pressure on singles without preparing them for the task ahead.
Marriage is honorable, sweet and fun; but let it be on the premise of adequate preparation under God.
Stop praying for me to get married as you don’t know how ready I am spiritually, physically, psychologically, emotionally and financially.
No marriage until:
I am able to differentiate the voice of God from the voice of man.
I can sit with the WORD for hours gleaning from the written mind of God.
Prayer becomes a lifestyle. How will I lead my family in the way of the Lord when as the husband I don’t fit into the priesthood role or as a wife when I cannot build my home in the place of prayer?
How will I marry when I’m yet to grow in love and be able to love my wife as Christ says I should.
I shouldn’t talk about getting married until I’m ready to submit to my own husband.
Don’t pray for me to get married until I am teachable, humble enough to admit mistakes and make amends.
Until I can submit and be accountable to a higher authority, there shouldn’t be any marriage talks.
I am ready to forsake all others and cleave only to my spouse until death do us part. You will agree with me that it is not easy when pretty ladies and handsome guys are out there seeking for my attention.
I still need to build Godly character before saying, “Yes I Do”.
I need to learn how not to be selfish and start caring for others.
You shouldn’t jump on the train of marriage without proper preparations. You need to make spiritual, psychological and emotional and financial preparations. It is easy for frustration to set in as a result of problems not put into consideration before starting the journey.
Stop praying for me:
To have children as you don’t know if I can handle the stress that comes with parenting. Parenting is demanding, let me get it right.
When I’m not ready to sacrifice my body to carry another being, sacrifice my sleep and other pleasures.
Until I have learnt what it takes and how to go about raising Godly seeds, tailor your marriage towards another area of my life.
Learning to when to use the rod and when to refrain is part of the process.
You don’t need to pressure me to have more children when I don’t have the capacity to give the children the good and quality lives they deserve. At least I should be able to provide for their basic necessities of life.
Until I’m ready to transfer my Faith in Christ to the children just like Lois was able to transfer to Eunice then to Timothy her grandson.
It won’t be good to raise children that will constitute nuisance to the society. I will not want to add to the problems on ground.
Stop praying for me until I am matured enough to take up responsibilities.
I know I’m advancing in years, but I need to mature in all areas of life before taking the route.
This might be the time for pruning, let me yield to the learning process and understand the curves and bends.
Thank you for loving me so much, but pray that the eyes of my understanding receive light.
Be ready to give it all the attention and investment.
Marriage is responsibility!
Help me to get it right.